Life is getting me down

Seventhson · 2011-11-14T21:55:20+00:00

Just seems like everyone abandons me. All I seem to have is my guitar. I am sorry for making a thread but I don't know what to do anymore ☹ I am so sad these last days. Just seems like everything is crumbling around me. I lost two friends that just abandoned me I cared for them so much. I can't get a band going(something that I really wanted to do) I am at a point where I don't know what to do(I am not suicidal) I am sorry for such a downer post. I just need to talk to people who can give some advice and this is the best forum community.

stu

Averatu wrote We've been trying to get a band going for 10 years, still cant find a drummer. In my case, being a total cynic and expecting the worst from everyone means I'm hardly ever disappointed.

I know a drummer desperately looking for a band. Where in JHB are you? PM me if your interested.

7th I used to be like you dude. I hated the world and everyone in it. I had a lot to be pissed off about but then I found it was getting my nowhere.

I bought an acoustic guitar and learned to play a few happy songs that people like and played them at gatherings. I started forcing myself to be happier all the time.
I stopped allowing myself to fall into deep depression. I started looking for the positive things in life. I started to find pictures of kittens cute.

How it was before:
I hated myself
My parents hated me
My 'friends' hated me
I hated everyone

How its is now:
I dont mind myself so much anymore
My parents still hate me
My friends are now inviting me to events I never used to go to
I want to be friends with everyone

Im going to take Kalciums advise and get a new hobby. I already have lots but why not have more! ?

If all else fails, grab a few beers!

stu

Neon Gecko wrote As most have already said, we all tend to go through mood swings. But I think that people with creative personalities probably suffer more as the swings are probably more extreme. But that is what shapes us into who we are, and creatively that can only be a good thing...

+1

My best songs are written when Im in an extreme of a particular mood. Usually depression... seems my song writing days are over :'(

stu

Oh, and remember, we are here for you dude. Your one of us ?

giggsy

stu wrote I started to find pictures of kittens cute.

If that's not enough to make you laugh... 8)

And yeah, the beer thing works too

Svengali

Friendship seems to be a big part of your problem. It's been said to me by a wise person - and I've found it true in my own experience - that - if at the end of your life you can count five true friends you're very lucky.

After a while a pattern emerges. One's truest friends aren't nescesarily those to whom you've been attached at the hip for a season, nor those with whom you felt the closest affinity.

Life's a paradox. I believe relationships are mainly what makes it worth while. It's the only thing of lasting value, yet I've learned to not attach value to some of the things most valuable in life in that one should always be prepared to give it up at amoments notice and not be permanently scarred through the loss.

It may be dated and corny, but go read 'If' by Kipling again. He was onto something. it could also be summerized in the words of the apostle Paul who said 'In all things I have learned to be content'.

Don't discount family. They tought me to value loyalty in spite of clashing personalities, tastes, life-views, etc.

The advice about excersice you can take to the bank. Don't sit around and mope at home. If you're a reader - grab something that relates to your personal issues. It sometimes helps to see how skilled authors can be at verbalizing our - often inexpressible feelings as if they're the most common things in the universe.

A great classic treaty on friendship (read it those who find this incredulous!) is 'Kidnapped' by Robert Louis Stevenson of 'Treasure Island' fame.

Hammeron

Cmon' dude cheer up !

You know it makes me realise how damn lucky I've been on the band front, three musos that get on well, live close to each other, think alike and have families that are with us all the way.
I know it may not last forever, damn it, that's why we never waste a moment. We do everything that comes our way, we take every opportunity and make the best of it.
We in the studio on the weekend to lay down 7 new tracks, down to Graskop for a gig in December.

It's a pity you aint closer, I'd take you out for a Cream Soda!
Put on Maidens Flight 666 and chill !
Keep ya chin up ! ?

Seventhson

I am generally not a negative person. I try to be as positive as I can be.

I don't hate as much as a use to. Back a few years ago I pretty much wanted to see the world burn.
I think I have changed a lot. I don't hate my parents lol. I think the only thing at the moment I feel is there must be something wrong with me. People avoid me. Even though I am very friendly. I try and make as many friends as I can. Girls don't look my way ?

But thanks for all your advice you guys are good people.

@tamla thanks girl? Just had been having a rough time. I put on some megadeth and that put me in good spirits ?

@Svenagali Yeah I knot that saying. I am lucky I have a real friend. He has always been there for me. We don't see each other often but we don't need to. We have an understanding. known him for 11 years now.

I know I will come right. Just worries me it might be a while.

Hammeron

Daniel "Seventhson" Stuart wrote I am generally not a negative person. I try to be as positive as I can be.

I don't hate as much as a use to. Back a few years ago I pretty much wanted to see the world burn.
I think I have changed a lot. I don't hate my parents lol. I think the only thing at the moment I feel is there must be something wrong with me. People avoid me. Even though I am very friendly. I try and make as many friends as I can. Girls don't look my way ?

But thanks for all your advice you guys are good people.

@tamla thanks girl? Just had been having a rough time. I put on some megadeth and that put me in good spirits ?

@Svenagali Yeah I knot that saying. I am lucky I have a real friend. He has always been there for me. We don't see each other often but we don't need to. We have an understanding. known him for 11 years now.

I know I will come right. Just worries me it might be a while.

Good! I have a friend who prefers to call 'The big 4' ......'Megadeth and friends' ! ?

Seventhson

Tamla Kahn 'Hammeron' McMahon wrote
Daniel "Seventhson" Stuart wrote I am generally not a negative person. I try to be as positive as I can be.

I don't hate as much as a use to. Back a few years ago I pretty much wanted to see the world burn.
I think I have changed a lot. I don't hate my parents lol. I think the only thing at the moment I feel is there must be something wrong with me. People avoid me. Even though I am very friendly. I try and make as many friends as I can. Girls don't look my way ?

But thanks for all your advice you guys are good people.

@tamla thanks girl? Just had been having a rough time. I put on some megadeth and that put me in good spirits ?

@Svenagali Yeah I knot that saying. I am lucky I have a real friend. He has always been there for me. We don't see each other often but we don't need to. We have an understanding. known him for 11 years now.

I know I will come right. Just worries me it might be a while.

Good! I have a friend who prefers to call 'The big 4' ......'Megadeth and friends' ! ?

I call them megadeth,slayer and friends ?

guidothepimmp

I wasn't going to comment on here but turns out I've just come off an 11 month learning curve and I want to add my 2c.

Holy sh*t man get a grip, is life really so bad?
Let's see, you're healthy, you're young, you have dreams and enough time to reach them or work at making them a reality, you have mates, you have your guit fiddle.. What's so bad about "life" then that YOU let it bother you so much?

Flip side,
You could have a terminal disease
You could be handicapped impeding you from fulfilling your hobbies
You could be disliked by everyone

Seriously dude, get your priorities right, not priorities in the sense of your job or girlfriend etc.. Priorities in the sense of stop worrying about crap and spend more time enjoying yourself.. Really. Lifes too short

Its not a dude offering you a beer that's going to sort out your perceived issues..

You need to pull thumb and work toward. What makes you happy..

Can't find a band? Who cares, instead of posting about a hard life is, why not post about a jhb get together for a jam?

Lifes too short man, grab it by the scruff of the neck and have fuin..

Seventhson

No but I am going to be working at pick n pay which sucks ☹

guidothepimmp

Perspective..

If I were your boss at p and p, one of two things would happen..

I'd see a vibrant energetic young man eager to learn the various aspects of the business.. So.. I would give him more resposibilities and if the young man performs well, who knows.. Maybe he could be a supervisor or manager or something

Or

I would see a demotivatedn self pitying young man bemoaning the fact he works for p and p and going through the motions because it pays.. This young man I can guarantee wouldn't make it..

Sometimes you need luck to nudge you in the right direction, sometimes you need to make your own luck. Positive attitude goes a long way. Be grateful you have the opportunity to work.

Seventhson

guidothepimmp wrote Perspective..

If I were your boss at p and p, one of two things would happen..

I'd see a vibrant energetic young man eager to learn the various aspects of the business.. So.. I would give him more resposibilities and if the young man performs well, who knows.. Maybe he could be a supervisor or manager or something

Or

I would see a demotivatedn self pitying young man bemoaning the fact he works for p and p and going through the motions because it pays.. This young man I can guarantee wouldn't make it..

Sometimes you need luck to nudge you in the right direction, sometimes you need to make your own luck. Positive attitude goes a long way. Be grateful you have the opportunity to work.

No I agree. But what woman will want me? hahahha

No I plan to work hard there. Maybe I will feel better when I have my own money.

Seventhson

Just want to say thanks to everyone. I feel a lot better. Some men without hats helped.(we can dance ?)

And I am happy I will be working soon. Its good to get some income. And I will work my way up. I am still young.

How can I make a girl happy if I am not happy.

Averatu

Daniel "Seventhson" Stuart wrote No but I am going to be working at pick n pay which sucks ☹

In the wise words of Homer Simpson:
“Lisa, if you don’t like your job, you don’t strike. You just go in everyday and do it really half-assed. That’s the American way.”

Seventhson

Totally agree. Life will be well. Things will come right. It has too.

Listening to some billy idol. 80s music always puts me in a good mood.
I also have a lot going for me. Like jack says I am not a bad looking fellow and I can play guitar ?

Malkav

guidothepimmp wrote Can't find a band? Who cares, instead of posting about a hard life is, why not post about a jhb get together for a jam?

Alternatively learn more theory and your way around a DAW and then program in whatever you need, you can then use a laptop or some other form of playback device to run a click and a backing track containing the "missing" band members. Then you only need to find 1 or 2 other members and it's easier to find people who are interested in becoming part of what you're doing when they can see/hear the final product and to be honest I think this offers alot more freedom in terms of creative direction but also just equipment wise, I know that Superior Drummer may not be the most life like warm drum sound ever but I'd rather have it then have a drummer with a crap kit and crap cymbals, especially if you're not lazy and you actually take some time to program in velocities etc. When my band lost our keyboard player we went this route, and using reason and lots of free vsts that you can find all over the internet we've managed to do things that sound better than what could be achieved using an entry level keyboard, which to be honest means most keyboards/synths under R20k really which is more or less the kind of budget area you'd expect someone our age to be in.

Squonk

Daniel "Seventhson" Stuart wrote Listening to some billy idol. 80s music always puts me in a good mood.

I am detecting some serious Issues here ? 80's music?? I think I need to spend some time with you ?

stu

Squonk wrote
Daniel "Seventhson" Stuart wrote Listening to some billy idol. 80s music always puts me in a good mood.
I am detecting some serious Issues here ? 80's music?? I think I need to spend some time with you ?

+1

80s music just aint cool. Rather listen to 90s music. Now theres some good stuff :yup:

Although I listen to Christopher Cross so I cant say too much...

Averatu

Daniel "Seventhson" Stuart wrote Totally agree. Life will be well. Things will come right. It has too.

Listening to some billy idol. 80s music always puts me in a good mood.
I also have a lot going for me. Like jack says I am not a bad looking fellow and I can play guitar ?

But then you can never be as awsum as Chuck Norris. While urinating, Chuck Norris is easily capable of welding titanium

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