Mannemarak
So, I'm getting married on saturday and for some reason I decided to play AND sing a song to my wife to be, it being part of my speech. Now the problem is that I have a SERIOUS case of stage fright, or I think so...my bachelors taught me this. I decided that I only live once and regardless of my fear that I HAVE to do this.
Anyway...is there any advice you guys might give....like imagine everyone in their underwaer type of thing?
IceCreamMan
hey man just do it ...yr wife to be will love you for it and to hell what everyone else thinks...its your and yr wife's day and i daresay it will go down a treat with her and all the women at the function and most of the okes too.. you will get ragged by some who too poep bang to do something like that .....
i wanted to do this at my wedding just did not pan out but i have decided i will do this at our 10th anniversary where we will have a party..
still have 5 years to practice ...
good luck and best wishes and congratZZ and all them lekker things
Squonk
Hell this is a scary one, Maybe you should imagine that you and your wife are the only ones in the underwear ?
Is it a difficult song, will you be picking, strumming? Maybe just choose the simplest arrangement of the song.
Also get a friend to tune the guitar, you will be too nervous to do this.
I have this problem just playing at the simple Open Mic nights. The advice given me to me was to choose an easier song to start off with.
That's what you will have to do, easy arrangement and some friends(Best Man) to give you a lot of support with Mic's etc.
Good luck, and I am sure your wife to be will be blessed
costafonix
Getting married is enough to give anyone stagefright,, ? ☹
But seriously, instead of focusing on the entire crowd, try and single out one or two familiar faces in your audience and sing to them (pretend the rest dont exist),,,and dont forget to focus some attention on your wife-to-be as well ?
and put in enough practise beforehand,,,
I'm sure it will go off well.
Good Luck 8)
Mannemarak
Thanks for the support so far...
The song is a short simple 4 chord song, just strumming. My hassle lies more with the singing part I would reckon. Some people have told me that I don't sing bad but it was a kareoke night and enough booze to make everyone's judgment bad, so I am still a bit in the dark.
Anyway, I'm going with the "at least I had the guts to do it" advice...I mean it is just 3 minutes, 180 seconds...not long at all ?
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Two years ago as best man I played my best friend and his wife down the...OK, across the lawn, and then performed a song of my own once they'd taken their vows. I really enjoyed that, and I think it would be even more meaningful for you, so I'm all for it. You'll find the guts at the time; don't worry about that. Also, the act of singing for her is far more important than how well you might perform technically.
Jack-Flash-Jr
Try sing it to a buddy first? I with the just do it brigade, but make sure everything is ready, i.e. the guitar is good to go, in tune, got your pick if you use one etc. Makes life easier if you've got one less thing to worry about...
Secondly, congratulations! Married life is cool... ?
IceCreamMan
Jack Flash Jr wrote:
Secondly, congratulations! Married life is cool... ?
Thats the way ....lets not tell him the truth and scare him away ....cant have any happy ppl in the world ?
Mannemarak
I tried to practise the song the last 3 weeks as much as I could...but can't really since the fiancee is there most of the time. last Saturday I actually played the song over and over about 40 times. Playing with variations, getting my voice as much on pitch as my own hearing would allow. I tried yesterday and it was a disaster, could not get the 'Bm' cleanly at all...drove me nuts...just hope it works out on the day.
She will be standing front and centre when I sing so hopefully everyone watches her....who am I kidding ?
I luckily have the fortune of setting up in the hall in the morning so I'll do a test run there...see how it goes.
Thanks for all the possitve support...it helps alot ?
Jack-Flash-Jr
IceCreamMan wrote:
Jack Flash Jr wrote:
Secondly, congratulations! Married life is cool... ?
Thats the way ....lets not tell him the truth and scare him away ....cant have any happy ppl in the world ?
That's what your wife said...
http://instantrimshot.com/
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Warren
This is awesome, and is something I would like to do for my own wife-to-be on the special day. ?
Just remember, you can stuff it up completely: the fact that you are going to be doing this, for her, in front of all your friends and family; that's all she'll remember, not the broken chords or the choked word or two.
Practice as much as you can, then just accept that you've prepared all you can and you have to just give it your best!
IceCreamMan
Warren wrote:
This is awesome, and is something I would like to do for my own wife-to-be on the special day. ?
Just remember, you can stuff it up completely: the fact that you are going to be doing this, for her, in front of all your friends and family; that's all she'll remember, not the broken chords or the choked word or two.
Practice as much as you can, then just accept that you've prepared all you can and you have to just give it your best!
u left out a very important litlle letter t in yr post ?
Bob-Dubery
Practice the piece well. That way you don't have to worry about "do I know this?".
But do it. It's such a great personal touch - a magic moment between you and your new wife. Don't worry about anybody else, do it for her and sing it to her.
For me wedding I memorised and read a poem - it allowed me to eloquently express something to my wife and she was very moved that I did that for her.
Mannemarak
Well, I know the song of by heart, seeing I've been singing it in my car (yes yes, corny I know) the last 4 months as much as possible plus playing it on the guitar every chance I get.
I will focus on her as much as possible as to 'forget' that there is a crowd...or try to at least. And who knows, this might turn out so good that it opens the door for me to do open mic gig's etc.
Thanks guys for all the suggestions...?
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Mannemarak wrote:
And who knows, this might turn out so good that it opens the door for me to do open mic gig's etc.
For your sake, I hope you don't tell your fiancee the real reason you're having this wedding...
Jack-Flash-Jr
Stratisfear wrote:
Mannemarak wrote:
And who knows, this might turn out so good that it opens the door for me to do open mic gig's etc.
For your sake, I hope you don't tell your fiancee the real reason you're having this wedding...
:roflmao:
Riaan-Combrink
Mannemarak wrote:
I tried yesterday and it was a disaster, could not get the 'Bm' cleanly at all...drove me nuts...just hope it works out on the day.
If you're battling to fret the Bm now, it may be quite a mission when the wedding nerves kick in on the day. Have you considered a capo on the 2nd fret (and thus playing an easy Am)? Of course depending what the three other chords are - if you don't end up with a barre in one of them!
But I agree with the other guys. No-one - especially your bride - is gonna sweat a bum note or two. It's gonna be cool. Congrats. 8)
Mannemarak
Ok, just an update on above post. I got up and did my speech as was customary and just before the end asked my wife to come stand front and centre. I was nervous as hell and the sweating hands made me worry that playing will be seriously affected, for the worse.
It turned out just fine in the end, I made some bad errors but it was nerves and heat (wedding was in Kruger park) and I guess more serious practice would have helped more...depends I guess.
Anyway, she cried...and some other people did also...and when I was done my friends gave me a standing ovation. All in all, a very good day. I am just glad that I decided to go through with it, it was worth every bit and more...
like Richard Branson said...'Screw it, let's do it"
Thanks for all the kind words from all of you
Squonk
? I suppose the Wedding Night was good then :-[
Good Stuff!
Mannemarak
:-[ No faults there hehehe
