TomCat
@ Alan...+1 on everything you said.
Regarding click etc...keeping the level of the click down (mentioned elsewhere) definitely works better as it becomes more of a subconscious thing and becomes only apparent if you lose your timing.
We played around with this last evening.
Mariann was battling with the timing on a piano piece and kept wanting the click louder.
I then suggested we turn the click way down as the click had become the overriding factor in her playing. Once the click sat in the background she easily found her rhythm and it all fell into place.