Wizard wrote:
What we find romantic is often the memories we link it to.
Yep. This is the "Solid Gold Sunday" syndrome. When people say "that music was so good" they mean "reminds me of my youth" or "that was the song that was number one when I met your mother". It doesn't make the music good, bad or even romantic. You're just using it as a trigger for a pleasant memory.
Music deserves better than that.
'Romantic' & 'sad' are also perilously closely related
I think so too. Look at the great love stories (most of which are really the same story) Layla and Majnun, Romeo and Juliette. Beautiful but sad. Maybe we see it as an affirmation of love (or our need for love) that people will suffer and even die young if it means they experience true love for a short while. If you will put your life on the line, or try to cheat the inevitable, or renounce all else then that shows that you have truly loved because nothing else mattered. Because nothing else does matter.
