Should my kid feel guilty

guitarmom · 2013-05-18T16:55:53+00:00

Hi all... ☹ My daughter is n a band ( 13 to 15 yrs) .They are very talented and were in lots of shows and competitions over the last year...Ive send a video clip of them to a record label, that is also a reality tv show...They did not reject the clip but asked my daughter to play one of her other songs just with guitar ,without the band. ( she writes &compose all the songs). The label now wants to record and produce this song that she performed without her band.. The mom of the other 2 kids are not very happy and feel my kid should,ve stayed loyal to her band and not accept the offer. I love this band , and so does my daughter and the last thing we want is for them to split... (i dont see why they have to) but the way the mother is going on its asif my kid has deserted her band . I feel terrible that the producers do not want to include the other two kids,( they play drums and bass),..but opportunities like this dont come daily and we dont have the money to put these children in a recording studio. I would love to hear your thought. Were we right or wrong ; Thanx ☹

guitarmom

Thanx Mika and Arno, for your comments.

@Arno..you are wrong about the label, except for what will be in the contract, i do a little homework and i do follow theim on Facebook and youtube . They broadcast daily on tv (toptv) and its not the soppy story talent shows we all know about..its an original South African concept that was launched last year...They basically just want viewers to see the day to day happenings at a recording studio ? I dont believe they set their artists up for failure, but should it fail..she will atleast have professionally recorded cd as well as a music video at no cost to us.

I like my children to be healthy emotionally, so i would NEVER push them into something they dont want to do..except when it comes to cleaning her room ,i push yes..i push really hard! lol ?

Bob-Dubery

I don't think the label will be setting up a kid for failure, but they're not likely to be interested in a kid's long-term welfare either.

Pay attention to Arno. He's in the business and has been for years. He records. He has contracts. He plays in a band that has a lot of experience (here and overseas), that write material, that have to deal with publishers and so on. Arno knows whereof he speaks.

coynegfsa

X-rated Bob wrotePay attention to Arno. He's in the business and has been for years. He records. He has contracts. He plays in a band that has a lot of experience (here and overseas), that write material, that have to deal with publishers and so on. Arno knows whereof he speaks.

I second that. Trust Arno's advice.

Arno-West

coynegfsa wrote
X-rated Bob wrotePay attention to Arno. He's in the business and has been for years. He records. He has contracts. He plays in a band that has a lot of experience (here and overseas), that write material, that have to deal with publishers and so on. Arno knows whereof he speaks.
I second that. Trust Arno's advice.

Thank you for that vote of confidence guys.
Years of dissapointments, countless bad experiences, broken promises and shattered dreams have made me a bit jaded towards the music industry in general.
Let's be honest, it's not an easy business to get into nevermind making a living from it allthough I have managed to do that for almost 25 years now. You need to have hair on your teeth to survive.
At the same time, the "high's" are extreme and 1 awesome gig makes up for 100 forgettable ones.
My main point, Mrs. Guitarmom, is that I do not think any 13 year old kid posesses the emotional tools to deal with the sharks out there and there is only so much "protection" you can offer.

I'm just looking out for her well-being and future developement as an artist here by pointing out a few pittfalls.. That's all.

Warren

X-rated Bob wrote I don't think the label will be setting up a kid for failure, but they're not likely to be interested in a kid's long-term welfare either.

But then, no commercial entity typically has the welfare of its employees at the top of its mind, whether you're a programmer working for a bank or a merchandiser packing shelves at Pick & Pay. That's not unique to the music industry.

Shibbibilybob

Sounds like a great opportunity, though as always, after shaking hands with management types, be sure to count all of your fingers before leaving.

Shibbibilybob

And take the bus/train/taxi to get there, because if they find out you've got a car, they'll find a way to get that too ?

guitarmom

lol@ Shibbybilly..dont worry we will ?

On a serious note,..Im greatfull for people like Arno that warn people like me about the pitfalls, However, this is here and now..This wont be my kids career unless she choose it in the future,..Just like with all the competitions we enter them,.we make it clear to give it their best but not to expect anything. ( winning) The main purpose is for them to have fun,gain experience & confidence... With this record label thing,..when i saw the add, we thought , why not... it would be really cool if one of their songs could play on the radio. Thats all..we have no further expectations from the label...

I try to google as much as i can about record labels etc..and i also have you guys now ?...I will keep you posted ?

Chabenda

You're a great Mom! All the best!

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DonovanB

here's a challenge... name 5 Major success stories from reality tv...

I can think of Kelly Clarkson, even though I'm not a big fan. And that's it.

Alcatrax

Just a thought...

Your daughter does seem to have talent but could probably benefit from a different instrument.

She is playing a nylon string in some of the videos, which (in my opinion) is particularly tricky for a youngster with small hands. There are other videos in which she plays an electric guitar, but is playing parts that would work better on a good quality acoustic.

FWIW, I think she would benefit from a steel string acoustic with a slim neck.

Also.... treat SA record companies bearing contracts with the same caution you would greet a shark with a napkin round its neck and a knife and fork in its fins.

Cheerio

Alcatrax

guitarmom

LOL,..dont worry, this is not something my daughter or we want at all cost, when the time comes,we will get a shark spotter if we have to ?

Her 16th birthday is coming up..we wll keep the guitar you suggest in mind, as a gift

@Donaovan..Carrie Underwood is also very successful..and i think Jennifer Hudson ? .Dont know of South African idols..Heard Elvis Blue is doing great.

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