The thing that turns me off metal honestly is the abundance of consistency and lack of dynamics.
Bands like
Beneath the Massacre where the drummer has absolutely no feel and every hit sounds like the same velocity. Too mechanical.
Divine Heresy is up there as well as Fear Factory and Machine Head and well..dragon force.
Metal bands that have over enough feel in their music that I find are the only metal bands i can listen to.
Opeth
Behemoth <---some might disagree but for the latest album, everything except the kick isn't triggered. So what he hit..you hear.
Gojira
Mastodon.
There are others but I'm being specific (or am I)
I find myself listening to Jazzier music more.
Pat Metheny
Guthrie Govan etc
Tons of feel ?